Can You Help With A Reading Please?

Hi to all My Tarot Friends, 

Love and Romance Associations for Cup Cards is close to finish and will be posted by early next week. In the meantime I have a request from a student for help with the following reading. I have already given my opinion but I have asked her permission to throw it out to the audience for further contribution and input. You will see the dilemma she finds herself in with both the Reversed King of Wands and The Reversed Emperor, a tricky one for sure. I suggested she should pull extra cards to flush out their meaning but for the moment we will stick with what we have. For privacy reasons, I will keep the identity of the Querant hidden. This reading is open to anyone who wishes to contribute. We all read differently so it will be interesting to see what comes up. The Querant has supplied her own interpretation. She is new to tarot and I think has done very well.

The Reading – Looking for Love Spread

(Impossible to line up Card 3 and 4 which should be centered in the reading)

Base Card

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Card 2                                                             Card 6

The Magician (I) Upright   The Emperor Reversed

               Card 3                Card 4

King of Wands Reversed                                                   10 of Pentacles Reversed

Card 1                                                                Card 5

Here is my interpretation below, I hope it’s helpful:
Base Card – Gives background information. THE LOVERS

Card 1 – What are the underlying causes that have prevented or blocked you from meeting your perfect partner?

KING OF WANDS REVERSED – I recently came out of a marriage of 8 years (no children), it was a shock but was the right decision for us both. Soon thereafter I met a guy who was completely emotionally unavailable due to family trauma, he relentlessly pursued me and we had the most incredible 6 weeks together before he started pulling back and distancing, I ‘think’ (I don’t know whether to believe what he told me, but I felt it and I’m sure he did too as he said he did) we were both falling for each other but he ‘didn’t want an emotional connection’ and started treating me badly so I left. Then I went back hoping things would be different but they were worse. I believe the king of wands represents him, he’s cocky, arrogant, a player, offers no commitment, has narcissistic tendencies, self-centred, self-absorbed. I keep making excuses for him and can’t seem to let him or the idea of him go. I read that this card represented a date range that covers his birthday December 16th…

Card 2 – What can you do to make the necessary changes or overcome the issues in revealed in card 1?

3 OF SWORDS REVERSED – This experience has been SO SO SO painful. Worse than my marriage breakdown in many respects. I have thought about it/him every day. I have driven myself insane and I think the three of swords represents that pain and the need to grieve the loss and rejection/abandonment of both my marriage and this relationship. I need to move past this to move into the light. I do feel that things are improving and I am moving closer to happiness. I’m starting to feel great with every passing day!

Card 3 – What is the best step to take right now in order to find your perfect partner?

THE MAGICIAN – To keep exploring myself, self-love, self growth, enjoying my own company, growing into myself. I keep getting the high priestess coming up over and over in other readings. Is there any other actions linked to the magician?

Card 4 – Who would be the most suitable partner for me?

EMPEROR REVERSED – I think the emperor reversed represents a man who is able to be in control. What attracted me to the king of wands reversed was his alternative masculinity, I have never met anyone like him, he made me look at my life completely different and realise that everything I thought I wanted was false and unimportant. Nothing about him was on my ‘list’ but I was attracted to his spirited nature and this soul. Controlled, wild, different. Someone that can shake my world upside down and let me lose control. That is what I have been saying to my friends recently- what I am looking for is something completely different to what I’ve ever experienced. It’s the only way I can put a positive spin on this card…

Card 5 – Where am I most likely to meet my perfect partner?

10 OF PENTACLES REVERSED– this i’m confused about. I’m wondering if in its traditional sense, based on what I’ve read online, represents financial ruin? perhaps via losing my job (which I am nervous about, but have no reason to), via my divorce- in case my husband decides to go back on his word and try to take half our flat, or more positively does it mean I should get out there and let the magician in me dazzle and shine? get back on the dating game? I have struggled to motivate myself, not wanting to, or being able to move on from the king of wands reversed.

Card 6 – When am I most likely to meet my perfect partner?

3 OF CUPS –  i’m guessing this could be at a party/festival/wedding.

Querant – Ok so it would be great to know if anyone has any alternative interpretations of these cards? The lovers is confusing me. The bias in me is hoping it represents the king of wands reversed, my ego hopes and desperately wants him to work on himself and his process and come back to me and that the lovers represents us getting back together. Or does the lovers simply suggest I will meet my perfect man in time? Is it possible that the king of wands reversed can also be the emperor reversed too? Is there something that I’m missing?

Other Looking For Love Practice Reading here


Pentacles – Love and Romance Associations

How to Interpret ‘Pentacle Cards’ in a Relationship Reading

Hi to All My Tarot Friends and Followers,

Yes, this post is indeed long over due and I apologise for the delay in getting it out to you. Since my last post I have succumbed to a vicious flare up of Fibromyalgia which has been very debilitating this time round. For those of you who suffer from, or know about this condition, you will only be too aware of how rotten it can be. I have not been been able to attend to my regular work schedule and have only managed a couple of hours a day at the computer. Some days, none at all. I am hoping that a return to normal activity is on its way soon, but from previous experience, flare-ups vary in intensity and duration. My cards do show The Star in my surrounding energy, so fingers crossed.

I hope you enjoy reading about the Pentacles – Love and Romance Associations. I think I may have gotten carried away as I seem to have done more on this Suit than I did for both Wands and Swords.  There is so much to say about these lovely Pentacles. Indeed, I could have written a lot more!


Vivien (your Tarot Teacher)

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Pentacles- Quite Interesting in Relationship Readings

Pentacles are generally welcomed in Relationship Readings once they are Upright. Cups are all very well and good for love and romance, but they can have their heads stuck in the clouds and get lost in unrealistic dreams as their emotions run away with them. Yes, Cups do highlight matters of the heart, but only on the basis of fluctuating emotions. The love experienced by Cups can turn sour overnight as they are easily influenced by their shifting environment. They view love and romance in an idealistic way and most certainly they are to be encouraged in this manner for we should all be lost without love. However, holding on to that love once they have found it can prove a stressful endeavor. Some Cups are forever chasing the dream lover or relationship. Disappointment or disillusionment can follow. Pentacles help them to be more realistic and practical about their needs….. Click here or Below to Read More

Page Link  Pentacles – Love and Romance Associations


Associated Post – How to Interpret a Relationship Tarot Reading with no Cup Cards!

How to Interpret ‘Wand Cards’ in a Relationship Reading Published

How to Interpret ‘Sword Cards’ in a Relationship Reading  – Published

How to Interpret ‘Cup Cards’ in a Relationship Reading  – To Follow

Site Hacking Alert Over – Clean Bill of Health

Hi to All My Tarot Friends Around The World,

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Further to the possible Site Hacking Post I published on September 20th, I have spent the last couple of days following the advice of WordPress Staff and Forum Members in taking certain steps to flush out any unwanted activity on my site. This involved me having to totally overhaul my site and email programs. Thankfully nothing was found, and both WordPress and I feel confident that all is well. However, I would like to thank the site follower who took the time to bring the potential site hack to my attention. I did a lot of research after this and discovered that so many site owners haven’t a clue their site is being hacked as the hacker configures the virus to identify the administrator in order to keep them out of the picture. Unless someone contacts the administrator to tell them of issues on their site, the hacker can continue without any challenges. Sites can lose traffic along with their reputation and credibility if hacking becomes widespread.

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I am the sole site creator, developer, content author/creator, administrator, social media manager and a list of other things for I am also developing a new site for Truly Teach Me Tarot at present while working on separate web builds for friends and acquaintances. I have a tonne of correspondence to reply to everyday and work hard to keep on top of it. The idea that my site could possibly be hacked without me knowing about it, never entered my head at all. I just don’t have the time to check up on such things. With the self-hosted sites I have built for others, there are security plugins in place to inform me immediately of the slightest breach in security. I get emailed if someone attempts an unauthorised login for example. employ a huge number of people whose job it is to keep our sites safe and secure. It is highly unlikely that the breach in security will come from their end. We can all sleep more soundly as a result of this. The vulnerable areas where a hacker can find a backdoor into your site is through your browser or browser add-ons/extensions being infected with malware or adware. This issue may also be with the site user’s browser and not the site itself. Email accounts are also vulnerable and should be protected with super-strong passwords.

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So, I have learned a lot in the past two days and feel quite empowered by my new knowledge. However, the scheduled post containing the next section relating to The Pentacles -Love and Romance Associations will now be delayed by a couple of days. I apologise for this delay but it was vitally important for me to attend to the defense of my site. I do hope you all understand.

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So back to business, but I will be on my guard from now on!

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Possible Site Hack Notice!

  • Hi everyone,

One of my site followers contacted me today to inform me that several of my internal page links appear to be hijacked and are redirecting to external sites offering psychic services and similar.  Please be advised that these are not authorised links and have been activated without my knowledge. I have informed WordPress and am awaiting a response.  I apologise for any site disruption while this obvious hacking continues. I get a lot of traffic which I suppose makes me vulnerable to such attacks. Sites are illegally piggy backing off my traffic. Very frustrating. Please let me know if you have experienced this on my site.


Sword Cards – Love And Romance

How to Interpret ‘Sword Cards’ in a Relationship Reading

(Simple Snapshot Reference Guide  – Numerology, Upright, Reversed, Yes/No)

Swords – A little More Complex to Interpret


United We Stand! – Meeting of Minds

Ace of Swords

1 – Real Potential. A balanced and clear understanding of your relationship needs. Breakthrough in finding a partner.

Ace of SwordsUnderstanding what it is you need in a relationship. A logical approach to relationships. Forming new attitudes about relationships. A meeting of the minds.   Click Here or Below to Read More

Sword Cards – Love And Romance Associations


Wand Cards – Love And Romance Associations

Associated Post – How to Interpret a Relationship Tarot Reading with no Cup Cards!

How to Interpret a Relationship Tarot Reading with no Cup Cards!


There is a certain area of Tarot Reading that causes considerable confusion and frustration to those who are in the early stages of their apprenticeship or studies. The area I refer to is how one goes about interpreting a Relationship Spread when there is an obvious lack of Cup Cards to work with. Many students struggle when attempting to link non-Cup Cards to the emotional needs or desires of their client. They can view each Suit in a one-dimensional manner. This results in seeing love and romance only when Cup Cards are present. A good old Wand, Sword or Pentacle doesn’t have the same impact at all.

How to Interpret ‘Wand Cards’ in a Relationship Reading

I spent several years teaching Tarot, and at the end each class lesson, students would pair up to do mini exchange readings for each other. I would oversee these readings as I circulated around the class, stopping occasionally to observe the interactions. Time and again, I saw students fall into the same presumption trap that seems to be particular to the Cups’ Suit.  Here are some examples:

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Student A – Wants to ask about their career and in their near future position lies the Ace of Cups.

Student B– Face lights up and announces that they are going to meet someone on a romantic basis in the near future. Love is in the air. Student B hooks onto this card and bases the rest of the reading around the new romance that is just appearing on the horizon.

Student A – Is quite flattered but still would like to know more about their career.

I ask Student B if there is a possibility the Ace of Cups held others meanings that might be connected to career rather than love? The Point being that Cup Cards do not automatically mean ROMANCE or LOVE.

How to Interpret ‘Wand Cards’ in a Relationship Reading


The Lovers Reversed

Student C – Wants to ask about relationships and whether there is a ‘special other’ waiting for them in the near future. The cards drawn reveal no Cups.

Student D – On seeing no Cup Cards suggests that the time is not right as they see no romance in the foreseeable future.

I ask Student D to ponder the cards in the Spread and consider the possibility that Student C is not the romantic type and is looking for a less traditional type of relationship. Could they be seeking an intellectual match, or someone who is daring and adventurous, or then  again it might be financial security and stability that means more than romance. The Point being that no Cup Cards does not mean NO RELATIONSHIP or LOVE


I had a query recently from a site viewer who couldn’t work out why she had drawn so many Cup Cards when she had deliberately asked about her career. She asked if it meant that she should be concentrating on her love life at present instead of her career? Now, maybe the cards did mean that, but my response was to examine the personal emotional associations of the Cup Cards she drew, as opposed to automatically connecting them to romantic involvement with another. I reminded her that personal happiness comes before seeking it with another. I asked her to revisit these Cup Cards in relation to how she emotionally felt about her career choices. Were the cards suggesting a career associated with the Cups’ Suit? Where they questioning the long-term emotional fulfillment that would be derived from certain career options she was considering? Could she be choosing to turn down a career opportunity that would bring great happiness, but little wealth, in favor of one that promised the very opposite? There are endless possibilities and she would need to analyse the spread as a whole to find the answer.

So, the next time you do a Relationship Reading, and upon turning over the cards you find not even one Cup Card to run with, don’t panic. Look at the cards that are present and work from there. Love comes in many shapes and sizes. Our definition of love also changes throughout of our life. What we consider love as a teenager, is perceived as no more than naive infatuation as a young adult. When we are busy building our careers we may take another view of love and romance. It may not be as vitally important to us during that busy time. Love that involves committing to each other, or starting a family, takes on yet another slant. Then we have the type of Love that develops into a deep rich friendship. We also have a Love that demands the retention of personal freedom, the love of one’s own company. We have love that comes and goes, many loves in one lifetime, love that is delusional or elusive, and of course love that is timeless. As Tarot Readers or consultants it is not our job to attach a blanket understanding or meaning of love when doing Relationship Readings for ourselves or others.

What might sound preposterous to you may very well be extremely acceptable to another. A lack of Cup Cards could easily suggest that the person you are reading for is looking for something other than the typical romantic idyll. They may not feel ready for that type of love, so it is not our place to cast judgement.

I have taken some time to compile a list of possible meanings and associations (both Upright and Reversed)  that can be used for the other Three Suits; Wands, Swords and Pentacles when they turn up in a Relationship Reading. I have already written extensively about the relationship aspects in the more detailed versions of each card which are available to view on this site. These however can be used for quick access.

I have also given snapshot Yes/No meanings that can be applied, but remember they are only snapshot, and not definitive. There is also a reference to the Number of the Card with its numerical associations. 

I will be releasing these in installments over the next week, starting with The Wands Suit. Of course I will also include The Cups Suit at the end. For today, I bring you The Wands Suit. Just Click Here or on the link below. 

How to Interpret ‘Wand Cards’ in a Relationship Reading







Chart Your Progress Tarot Reading – Week 4

Queen of Wands Upright

Missed the Earlier Readings?  Reading 1   Reading 2  Reading 3

And so we come to the final reading for Sharon. We have learned much about her at this stage. Although we do not know Sharon on a personal basis, we have established a very strong understanding of the life path she is on at present. We can see that the focus of her intention lies not in just one small area of life but is far-reaching and overlapping. The life situation she sought help with from the Tarot is not isolated from the rest of her life. Indeed her life and present situation is full of many chapters, each one relevant and vital to the understanding of the overall story. Without investigating the individual chapters highlighted in the previous three readings, we might make impulsive uninformed judgments, or throw about conflicting advice. What we have seen so far are recurring messages from the Tarot that encourage Sharon to seek an independent path at present so that she may develop as an individual, thus  allowing her potential, dreams and ambitions to blossom and flourish.

Remaining Objective When Reading – My Musings!

Sharon’s extremely positive feedback highlights the fact that she already knows, without ever having to look at any Tarot Cards, what it is she needs to do. However, it is always nice to get a second opinion. We must always remember that these are my interpretations. Another Reader with a different Reading style might come up with something completely different. You see Tarot Readers as quite similar to artists or novelists. Three artists are presented with a commission to paint a coastal scene. All are given the same details, but when the paintings are revealed each one is totally different from the next. The same with three novelists who set about the task of writing a story based in, let’s say, war-time Paris. When we read the three stories, they bear no resemblance to each other at all, even though the writers were all given the same outline to work with. It all comes down to how the individual interprets internal visuals and information they absorb or are fed. Ask three people who were present at an incident to describe what happened, and yet again you will arrive at conflicting interpretations of what each one saw, or perceived to be happening. Our interpretations are generally influenced by our personal experiences or attitudes to the situation in question.

As Tarot Readers we must strive to step aside from knee-jerk interpretations and remain objective as much as possible. I personally went through a disastrous abusive marriage that ended in misery. I suffered much at the aggressive hands of my ex-husband. He left me for a young girl who was only 14 years old at the time. My son was less than a year old, and it pretty much destroyed me for a long time. I do a lot of Readings for men. Indeed most of my clients are male. In this business one deals with a lot of very sad relationship issues. Some of my male clients come for help because they are in an unhappy marriage and want to leave. Some have met another and no longer love their partner or spouse. If I were to allow my personal experiences (thankfully I have moved on and let them go), to interfere with these readings I would accuse them all of being b*****ds! Instead I listen to their stories and help them reach the best decision for all by asking the Tarot for guidance on a positive way forward.

Likewise I have many female clients who arrive distressed after their partner or spouse has left or cheated on them. They are often full of hatred, hell-bent on revenge, and want everyone to rally to their war cry (I was there too myself at one stage). Unfortunately they have come to the wrong Reader for that. I tell it as I see it in as nice a way as possible, but in some situations the Tarot roars at you rather than whispering its sublime messages. Just in case you think I am being sexist in any way, and to keep the scales balanced, I also have female clients who no longer love their partner or spouse. They too are well capable of falling out of love, feeling disillusioned and wanting to leave. And of course there are male clients who feel destroyed or very angry about their partner or spouse. Regardless of gender, Unhappiness is unhappiness.

As Tarot Readers or Consultants, we must sit somewhere in between and remain objective, regardless of our personal feelings on the matter. Your personal experiences in life should make you a wiser and more understanding Tarot Reader. They should never make you a rigid, bitter or highly opinionated one.  Work hard not to project negative personal experiences into your Readings. Tainted Readings do neither the Querant nor The Reader any favors.

Musings Over!


Now Back to The Final Reading ……………..

The Final Reading

Now that Sharon has explored some very important areas of her current situation, she is ready to completely focus on how she might best go about establishing the independent life she fought so hard to secure. It is time for Sharon to set about achieving long-held goals and ambitions. She is eager to move forward and is not afraid to do it all on her own. This is her chance now and her final question reveals the incredible talent and ability she has kept suppressed for so long.  This reading is very important for Sharon as her personal pride, happiness and fulfillment are at stake. Her wings had been clipped, but fate has given them back to her. How high and far will she fly?

The Question

Sharon – I would like my final reading to be about my independent path – about developing my career and financial security. but also following my life purpose. My career background is journalism/writing and counselling/guidance/healing and I feel like I want to combine the two in a business promoting personal growth in women – at the moment I’m thinking book, blog, workshops (the idea of group work and communicating through written word appeals more than one to one work.)

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Chart Your Progress Reading – Week 3 of 4

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Missed Reading 1 & 2?  Week 1  Week 2

And so we come to the third Chart Your Progress Tarot Reading for Sharon. Her story expands as light is shed upon all the connecting areas of her current path and situation. Sharon certainly has embarked on an exciting journey, but in this Reading Sharon wants to focus on relationships, not in a generic sense as in the last reading,  but this time focused in a very certain direction.

Sharon sent the questions for her Readings to me by private message. Up until now, I have supplied the exact question, but for this reading, it was a lot more personal. Therefore, I have stripped the question down to the bare bones.  What I will tell you is that she told me there was someone in the background, someone she is drawn towards, and maybe connected to the secret I mentioned in the previous reading. She agrees she is not in a rush to get involved with anyone right now, but she does feels a strong connection between them.

Sharon – So now I’m wondering – what is his role in my life?  The cards I pulled relating to this question are: the Ten of Pentacles, the Lovers, the Ace of Swords.

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After all the action and fire of The Wands, we now come upon our very first Pentacle, and not only that, it is the Ten of Pentacles. The previous Wands Cards were in the low numbers, suggesting the beginnings of your new life and how it was still in the early stages. All of a sudden we find the extremely settled Ten of Pentacles. This suggests to me straight away that even though you may not have openly acknowledged, or admitted it to yourself, you believe that this ‘secret man’ could very well be the one that could make you happy in the long-term. He has been in and around your life for a long time and the relationship is already quite concrete. Roots are firmly established. With The Lovers sitting in central position, we could easily be looking at a karmic situation, especially with The Ten of Pentacles flanking it on the left side. You and this man go back a long way, maybe longer than you think. The Ten of Pentacles stands for long-standing situations, longevity and legacy, with roots that often go back many generations or lifetimes.


The Lovers also suggest to me that you enjoy a wonderful level of communication with this man. You can speak freely, you share so much, and have lots in common. You can be yourself with this man and he too with you. There is certainly a bond here and more than just casual. The Ace of Swords often represents a meeting of minds, the double-edged Sword. Two minds are better than one, and even better still are two independent minds that can communicate in a balanced harmonious manner. The two sides are also reflected in The Lovers who perfectly complement each other. A decision will have to be made about this relationship at some stage, but there is no immediate rush. You may feel that The Ace of Swords is encouraging you to act, but all it wants you to do is clear your mind of the past, so that you can make sense of it all. You need to cut any ties that bind you to old relationship patterns and you will use the Ace of Swords to do so. You feel this to be a real relationship with a spiritual connection. You feel blessed for the first time.


Taking all this in at first glance, my initial response to the Ace of Swords is the sudden realisation of your true feelings for this person. The space has been cleared in your life and you can look at things and people from a new perspective. Ping, a light has gone on in your brain and all is crystal clear. The Ace of Swords also frees you to openly communicate your feelings about this man to others. It is safe to talk about him. You don’t have to keep it to yourself anymore, yet I feel you worry about your ex-husband finding out.


These are very positive cards in relation to the prognosis of this potential relationship. However, you are still at the beginning of your new adventure, and this relationship, although spiritually cemented, is still in an abstract sense, symbolised by the presence of Aces. The Ten of Pentacles reassures you that it is safe to view it at a distance, something that will come about in the long-run. It will come to complete manifestation. It is what both of you ultimately desire, as you have been slowly but surely moving towards each other over the years. Your destination is the same even though you took different routes. Your paths crossed several times as you journeyed. These encounters were flags that were designed to draw your attention to each other. The Wheel of Fortune and The Lovers demonstrate this. The Aces too, act as flags or signals. At long last you are both aware, several flags later.


The depth of feeling for each other has survived this long so don’ t worry about it disappearing all of a sudden. Where the Pentacles are concerned, they do not rush into anything. They take their time with everything they value by allowing it to mature, to organically evolve. They can, and will, wait without feeling stressed about the possibility of missing out on something. The Empress on the top row symbolises this maturity and reassures you that much growth is happening in this area, but that you must still put yourself first. Any troubles encountered in The Moon were all part of the process, and The Wheel turned just as it was meant to, as directed by you. A lesson has been learned along the way. You must be aware of what the lesson was before you can appreciate what you have learned. Do you now understand how your life came to be? You were not being true to yourself and allowed situations to come about that did not reflect your exact needs or desires.


I wonder why your relationship with this ‘secret man’ ran the way it did? You have known each other a long time; have been friends, even lovers. You seemed to have bumped into each other over the years in a synchronistic manner. You even told your friends you knew you would meet him again only two weeks before you were married. The feelings you had for this man have been there all along. His feelings were not in question either. What was it that got in the way of you two actually getting together? Why were you thinking about him when you were due to marry another? Why indeed were you marrying another? He was always there in the background and I can sense that you harbored deep regrets about this after marrying. There may have been an issue with your relationship that resulted in you marrying the wrong man. I don’t think this comes directly from either of you, but it may have been an external influence. Were there family involved who would not have deemed the relationship suitable? The Ten of Pentacles makes me wonder about family values and tradition. It also speaks of a family of status and affluence. Did being a single mom interfere with this relationship developing? He may also have been busy building his career, or possibly not free to be with you. I do think that something stood in the way that resulted in star-crossed lovers. However, the Fates are  now intervening.


I sense this man is aware of your need for independence, and even promotes it. He has kept a connection with you for much time and has even watched you walk away and marry another. He has been patient, as all Pentacles are. He sees value in you and enjoys watching your new-found freedom. He was instrumental in you leaving your unhappy marriage by offering his support of your cause. He will admire your ambition and desire to kick-start your career, and will offer further support in any way he can. As a couple you could also work well together, start a business even. Loyal friendship. The Lovers suggest you are sexually compatible and are attracted to each other on all levels. A very mature relationship is developing so there is no need to rush. The Ten of Pentacles will ask you to stabilise, establish and solidify your own situation before entering another relationship. Career and creating a secure home front is vitally important right now. You have had a lot of change in recent times and the Ten of Pentacles will act to ground you by keeping you focused on the task at hand. The rush and drama is over for now. You must settle in to your new environment and build on your financial security. This will be done by finding the right job or gaining extra qualifications. Long-standing institutions are very favorable for you right now. The ‘secret man’ does not appear to be going anywhere so you can relax. One thing to note is the lack of Cups related to this question. This does not mean there is no potential for love and romance but that maybe now is not the right time. All that end of things will come in due course. You do not need to be distracted from  your main path at present.


When we lay out this reading, with the previous three as stacked rows above it, we can view the cards more objectively. The Wheel of Fortune, suggesting the hand of fate, unexpected surprises, chance encounters, all designed to bring you to the Ten of Pentacles, another 10 card. The universe may have been conspiring behind your back all this time. Positioned below it we have the Three of Cups, the freedom to socialise and have fun once more. The three Cups are raised not just to toast your new-found liberation from an unhappy marriage, but also for arriving at a point of personal freedom. You say your daughter has now entered adulthood, and that being a mother defined your life for so long, especially all the time spent as a single mom. You have done well, and so you shall be rewarded. Looking diagonally down the lines of Cards we have the Ace of Wands on one end, mirroring the Ace of Swords at the other end. Two positive signs of new beginnings and awakenings. Personal motivation drives you forward now in the Ace of Wands with the Ace of Swords permitting you to start thinking about yourself too, without having to feel guilty. There is a wonderful freshness being communicated. However, we still have The Moon to overcome. I am wondering about the home you shared with your ex-husband? Where has it gone to? Has it been sold or is it still going through a process? I still feel that there are some niggling worries. In the midst of all this new energy, do not let unfinished business slide or you may lose out. As much as you want to move forward, tie up any loose ends that remain from the previous cycle. Lay some ghosts to rest.


The Numerology Bit

This week your combined cards carry a numerical value of 8 (1+7=8). 8 is the number of positive strength, finance, infinity, success, finances and business. 8 in itself represents the symbol of infinity when turned on its side, the lemniscate. Energy in constant movement, life looping around in itself over and over, regeneration, rebirth, what goes around comes around. This anchors a strong link that may explain your feeling of being soul mates. A never-ending love, love past death, and that love will wait. Infinite opportunities to meet and connect. This may be where your synchronistic meetings have sprung from. If the time is not quite right for this relationship, there will be plenty of opportunities in the future.

In Tarot we look to the Major Arcana. Card 8 is Strength. This is not forced strength but one which is gentle but firm, loving but not needy. Strength has mastered the emotional battle fought in the Chariot and can approach any emotional turbulence in life, be it positive or negative, in a balanced manner. There is knowledge gained of the self and how you dealt with situations in the past. Strength brings a new maturity to the fore as you begin to forgive and be at peace.

We must also look at Card 17 in the Major Arcana, The Star. The Star beautifully complements Strength. The is where we arrive after a period of trauma or drama in our lives, but only if we have dealt with our issues in a positive and progressive manner. Moving on after pain, trauma or loss is not always easy, but when we find the Strength to pick ourselves up and put one foot in front of the other, The Star moves towards and above us to light the path ahead. The Star is the beacon in the distance that gives us hope when we are lost, lonely or scared. The Star will guide you away from the troubles and concerns of The Moon. It is the reward after delivering ourselves into the light once more. Because we have shown strength in the face of all that was sent our way, we can bathe in the beauty and glow of The Star as we recover our sense of self, or transformed identity. The Star soothes our troubled soul and mind, and allows healing to commence. It leads us to a place where we are free to be, without the pressure or demands of others. The Star helps us to find ourselves but also asks us to share our knowledge or gifts with others. We must reach out and help others too as we are not the only ones who have suffered. The Star is linked to Humanitarian issues.

Where this relationship is concerned, you are still trying to find your self and need much space in which to heal and grow. There is a wonderful calmness descending upon you and a growing understanding of your personality and needs. The Star is another Karmic Card, and set beside The Lovers, we feel a wonderful deep sense of understanding and respect. I strongly suspect karmic links between you and this ‘secret man’.  Take your time, expand your lungs and breathe deeply. Taste the fresh air of freedom.


The total of Major Arcana Cards to date gives us a numerical value of 1 (3+7=10 – 1+0=1). This calculation is taken from Reading one, The Empress and The Wheel of Fortune. Reading Two, The Moon and this Reading, The Lovers. The Magician, card 1 in The Major Arcana brings power, knowledge and strong masculine energy.  The Magician has done his research and work. He finds himself in a position where he can achieve anything he sets his mind to. As a person, he is dynamic, charismatic, highly intelligent or educated and has burning desire and ambition. He draws people too him and is known to be an influencer. My only bit of advice with this card turning up in your reading about this ‘secret man’ is that you do not put him on a pedestal. Do not put yourself in second place to him. You are every bit as important and brilliant as he is. You need to work towards your own goals regardless of what happens between you. Much powerful energy is in your hands right now so make the most of it. The Empress and Magician suggest a powerful couple and if they are in love, then wow!

We can also look at card 10 which is The Wheel of Fortune. 10 and 1 are closely linked. Whereas 1 is connected to beginnings and new cycles, 10 to me represents the transition stage as an old cycle ends at 9/10 and a new one begins. We are still affected by echos of the cycle just finished and may have some unfinished business to attend to, even though to all intents and purposes we are done with the old. Everything is up for grabs and so many new opportunities will present themselves. The Wheel of Fate and Karma will continue to throw synchronistic events your way with this ‘secret man’. An exciting time ahead. Stay positive or the Wheel will begin to slow down. Everything is in divine order within your universe.

End of Reading – Week 3


Sharon – Thank you once again for such a wise and enlightened reading and thank you for your guidance about my relationship with the ‘secret man’ – you validated my deepest feelings about this and helped me to overcome the little niggling doubt (which I did think related more to what happened with my ex and my baggage connected with that than to him.) You completely nailed the relationship with the ‘secret’ man – how we relate to each other, his support for me (the complete opposite of my ex), my feelings about it and even the ‘star-crossed lovers’ aspect. I am in a much better place now than I was when we tried to be together in the past – I had way too much baggage then and was being lead by ‘ego’ rather than ‘soul’, allowing insecurities and fears to colour the relationship and eventually to run away from it, and I think something similar was going on for him. Yet on a soul level we never stopped loving each other deeply and that is what ultimately drew us back together. This time around I am happy to take it slowly and move towards him once I have tied up the loose ends.

I have actually been having dreams about my ex husband, about him being in my house and messing the place up so even though I’ve felt like it was over for me on an emotional level, there is perhaps still a bit of baggage left over (as you pointed out the other week, the relationship died a long time ago for me, so I did most of the grieving when we were still living together). I wonder if it’s because the divorce is still going through? I’m waiting for the decree nisi which should be pronounced in a week or so, which means the whole divorce will be complete by the end of May. Perhaps when it’s all complete then maybe this will mean all the loose ends are indeed tied.

I do think that now I’m being true to myself and am allowing my real self to emerge – I keep seeing butterflies everywhere and this is how I feel, like I’m finally emerging from the cocoon. It’s a wonderful place to be and I feel very much like I’ve been given the chance to start afresh and create the life I really want and always knew I should lead. It does feel like everything that’s ever happened to me has lead me to this particular place on a spiritual and material level – it feels like all the paths I’ve ever taken are now converging into one beautiful road leading me towards the place I was always meant to be in.


The Final Chart Your Progress Tarot Reading – Week 4 will be posted on Thursday the 25th of August.




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Chart Your Progress Tarot Reading – Week 2 of 4

Hi To all my Tarot Friends around the World,

3_ Cups_Upright

After getting off to an excellent start yesterday with Chart Your Progress Tarot Reading – Week 1, I now bring you the next Reading in this series, Week 2. In the first Reading, we set the background scene, found our central theme and got our bearings. We now have something very solid on which to build the next, and indeed, all subsequent Readings. We gained a real insight into Sharon’s situation, her personality and spirit. This has given us invaluable information and we can also see a wonderfully intricate story building around her.

There is indeed a vibrancy around this Empress woman who we cannot help but admire. However, we must strive to remain objective for the following three Readings. Life is never a bed of roses, and the journey we all face, rarely runs smooth, or as anticipated. We must be prepared to interpret any further scenarios that may arise regardless of how glorious her initial Reading is.

The Ace of Wands has certainly launched itself, but where will it go next? None the less, we have broken the ice and are prepared to expand on all the information gleaned from yesterday’s, Week 1 Reading.  Chart Your Progress Readings need to link together and organically develop. The questions, or query’s sought for each Reading, may vary, but all must link, as everyone’s life is multi-faceted with so many inter-related scenarios developing and interacting all around the same situation. We cannot separate every aspect of our life so that it stands alone. Regardless of how hard we try to compartmentalise our various roles, they will invariably cross over or invade each other’s territory.

The Minor Arcana demonstrates the individual aspects of our personality in the Suits of Wands, Cups, Swords and Pentacles. Their story-lines are built around the archetypal personalities and archetypal situations associated with each Element. Even though they walk their own path, they cannot help but be affected by their fellow Suits’ influences. The Swords have quite a difficult path to tread but do not for one moment think that The Cups Suit are marching along happy, oblivious to their Sword neighbours’ plight. If the mind is upset or distressed, then it will have a very strong impact on the emotions too, Cups. It will also limit the strength and enthusiasm of the Wands. It might very well paralyse the Pentacles. I tell you all this so that you may better understand the dynamics that are at play in Chart Your Progress Readings. You must identify connections as you proceed from week to week.

In the first Reading we established Sharon’s status, her frame of mind and the exciting, if sometimes scary, journey she had embarked upon. We now want to move beyond that in all directions to examine what personal goals are invested in this adventure which has been set in motion with The Ace of Wands and The Wheel of Fortune. She has grabbed her Wand and jumped aboard the Wheel, so what is it she wants to achieve? What does she want to happen? Let us begin.

Check out Chart Your Progress Tarot Reading  –  Week 1

Chart Your Progress Reading – Week 2

Sharon – So here are the cards for my next reading. I was torn between asking more about my work and for guidance on my emotional life but as I am putting the work stuff on the back burner for a little longer, I decided to seek guidance on my emotional life and relationships. The cards are – the two of wands – the moon – the three of cups. Very much looking forward to my next reading, thank you so much! Read the rest of this entry

See How ‘Chart Your Progress’ Tarot Readings Work – Week 1 of 4

Hi to all my Tarot Friends around the World,

The Empres Upright

While I am busy working away on writing more content for you all to enjoy, I have been given the much appreciated permission to publish a series of Tarot Readings I did for one of my fabulous Facebook Followers. I had thrown the word out that I would offer a free 4 weekly, Chart Your Progress Tarot Reading for one of my Facebook Followers if they were agreeable to having their Readings posted on the Page for all to see. They also had to have an issue, challenge or project to base the Readings on. I certainly struck gold when Sharon got in touch with me. She ticked all the boxes and was very focused on the area of her life she wanted her Readings to concentrate on.

Chart Your Progress Readings work by regularly monitoring a defined situation, issue, challenge or project over a 4 week, or more, time period to determine how it is progressing, and to highlight areas that need attention. As the weeks go by, it is quite clear to see in the Cards just how well things are working out. If there are apparent negative, or unwelcome cards in the earlier Readings, their absence in later Readings can indicate successful management of the issue. If these Cards, or similar ones, repeatedly turn up, then it can highlight on-going blocks or set-backs to progress.

Anyone can do this type of Reading. It is best not to use too many cards each week, but if you are doing it maybe once a month, a larger Spread can be used. The Initial Reading – Week 1 sets the scene and outlines all the details surrounding the query. It will provide a launching pad from which to work. All subsequent Readings will refer back to this original Reading.

Many of my Clients opt for this type of Reading, coming back every 4 to 6 weeks for a check-up. It often helps people stay on-track and focused. My Clients really get the benefit out of Charting Their Progress, but are often anxious when they appear on my door for their follow-up Reading if they have been sloppy about working on the insight gained from the previous one in between. I can tell the moment their Cards are turned if they have made progress, or have unfortunately relapsed into their old behaviour or attitude. Sometimes they need the Cards to keep them inline!!

So, this is Reading Week 1. The background provided by Sharon is detailed below followed by the Cards she drew from her own deck. My interpretation follows. Sharon’s feedback follows that. I will post Reading – Week 2 on Friday.


Sharon – I’m at a big turning point in my life, having just ended my marriage and moved house, so everything is up for grabs right now, including kick-starting my career again. So it was quite difficult to think of a specific question. When I drew the cards, I focused on guidance for my future path – where do I go from here? What should I focus on as I move forward? The cards I pulled were: ace of wands, the empress and the wheel of fortune, in that order. Read the rest of this entry


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