Will There be a Reconciliation? – Feedback from The Querant
Below is the response from The Querant in relation to the Reading I posted for her on Monday The 23rd of February.
Thank you so much for providing me with Feedback from the Reading I did for you on Monday. Now that a two-way flow of communication has opened up, so too have the Cards and their Stories. There is now so much more to see in this Reading and I have a few suggestions to make after reading your response. (see below Querant’s response)
With the 3 card reading, the Four of Swords in the past position is on point. It was a pretty dramatic end, a lot of bad feelings involved and it indeed was built up over a long period of time. I was feeling insecure about how/if it was developing in the right direction because the lack of communication, consistency and effort was building up for a long time. The other person involved asked me for a second chance and when the opportunity was handed and still no major effort was put in after so many promises, I knew I had to say goodbye even though deep inside that wasn’t what I really wanted. I just couldn’t go on with never knowing where I stand with this person. I wasn’t being a priority and there were too many excuses for this.
What also came between us was the distance. We live in the same country but a couple of hours away from each other and we just couldn’t seem to figure out how to make things work because of that. I am thinking about visiting the other persons city in about a month and I don’t know if I should reach out and say this because we ended on such a bad note.
The Hermit in present position also makes sense because I do feel lonely. I gave my all into this and after everything went down hill, I’ve felt lost. I do understand and agree that I need to be alone for a while and just learn how to not be so dependent on someone else/needing someone else. More time to just reflect and get some ”fresh air” is needed if we decide to ever enter each other lives again, or perhaps to realize that we need to stay away.
For the outcome, I know there will be only be a reconciliation if we decide to not let the distance get in the way and if big changes are made. I’ve got a lot of trust issues now because of the broken promises that was made and we can only reconcile if the other person proves that things will never go back to the way the were and steps up to the plate.
For the 10 card reading, you’re right when you say that others consider it an inappropriate match and there is much opposition to this relationship. This is because I wasn’t treated fairly. I’ve got a lot of ”You deserve so much better”, ”You’re worth so much more than this” etc.
I don’t know how to precisely interpret Page of Wands as current influences. Maybe it has something to do with the fact that I’m thinking about visiting the other persons city and if I should mention it, which is risky because of everything that has happened, as I mentioned before?
When it comes to obstacles in this reading I am wondering if the Queen of Swords-card is about me? This is because I recognize myself when you say ”…sharp edge of her tongue on many occasions” (when I had enough) and ”If there is something going on and The Queen of Swords finds out, there will be hell to pay for she will drive her Sword into all involved.” But I also have to say that I know the other person is the real obstacle because I haven’t done anything severe to mess up the relationship, I knew that I was trying my best the whole time and I wanted the other person to do the same.
The Three of Swords coming in for past influences echoes the Four of Swords in the previous reading, just like you said, so it makes sense.
The Ace of Swords in the goals and destiny position is also on point about wanting to sever ties and connections that stand in the way of this relationship.
”There is a need for people around the Querant; family and friends to give their blessing” is correct because if me and the other person were to ever enter each others lives again there is a lot that has to be proven. They’ve been seeing how much I’ve been hurting and don’t want to see me this way again. The Eight of Swords representing the influences of family and friends is precise.
Everything about the Queen of Cups represents me; I do love happy endings so it isn’t strange that I’m asking about a possible reconciliation.
The Page of Swords in the hopes and fears position is definitely talking about my insecurity, a sense of paranoia and suspicion.
The Magician for the outcome is a bit unclear just like the situation itself. Of course I hope this is positive and suggests plans and ideas manifesting in the real world, but I do realize that I need to take of my rose-tinted glasses. Just because I wish for things to turn around and for it to be a happy ending doesn’t mean it will necessarily happened. I cannot make a person change for the better and ”make things right” if the person has no desire to do so. At the end of the day all I want is to be treated right. Time will only tell how this will go but as for right now I know I need time to myself. If this isn’t meant to work out then I know something much better is waiting for me.
A Love Reading Request – Will There be a Reconciliation?
I received a request for help with this Reading a couple of weeks ago. Unfortunately, I am only getting to it now due to a heavy college schedule. I normally post back to the person with my views but have decided to include this Reading in a Blog Post instead. Obviously I have not included any personal information such as names or location etc. I receive many enquiries but can only respond to a certain number. However, please note that these Reading Requests come to me via the Comments Box, and when replied to, automatically can be viewed by anyone visiting the site. If you do not wish your Reading to be posted publicly, please mention this. Even if you fail to do so, I will never post details of users name or email address on the public posts.
I am currently weighed down with College Assignments, and as a result have precious little time to write on my site. However, I am working away in the background getting a bit done here and there. I will be releasing Part I of the re-worked Knight of Pentacles in the coming week. This is the Card Imagery Description and Personality Profile part. The Upright and Reversed Meanings will be posted once each stage is complete. Thank you for your patience and I look forward to getting stuck back into my full writing in the next couple of months.
Dear Querant, you say that you pulled these Three Cards in relation to a Love Reading and wish to know if The Ten of Cups suggests a reconciliation. In my response to you I cautioned about the Ten of Cups being a Stage Card and that it can often appear in a Spread when we wish and desire a certain outcome in a relationship. I asked you to check the surrounding cards, and if it seemed to be totally out-of-place, or looked awkward sitting in the Spread, there could be a chance that you are looking at a Tainted Reading. The Ten of Cups may have appeared because you drew it towards you with emotional desire.
You have now supplied the remaining Cards in the Spread. You have used the Three Card Spread; Past, Present, Future for this Reading. So let us have a little look. You have also supplied a more detailed Spread you did on a previous occasion. We will take a look at that one afterwards.
I am also interested to hear from other site visitors who would like to contribute. As you are all aware, it is quite difficult to do these Cold Style Readings as we cannot ask questions, and there are some many variables and probabilities involved. We will try to do our best and will look at it as a learning experience. I do hope our Querant gains some useful insight from the Readings below.
Love Reading – Querant asks about The Ten of Cups reflecting a possible reconciliation.
Well, with the Four of Swords in the Past Position, it is not hard to see that you have obviously gone through a very stressful period in relation to the relationship you refer to. Now this card could point to illness and a lot of other things, but when you mention a reconciliation I cannot help but think that there was a pretty dramatic end to this relationship in the past. There would have been much tension involved, arguments and bad feelings. I think this was probably building up over a long period of time and your relationship may have broken down bit by bit. However long it took in coming about, the end was quite a blow and left you burnt out, exhausted and deeply hurt. I am not sure if you have had much time for anything in your life during this stage as you would have been psychologically very low. You might possibly have withdrawn in an attempt to make sense of it all. Now as I tell you all this, it may not be you these meanings apply to, but rather your partner, so we will have to take that on board. Issues in your relationship, or on a personal level came to crisis stage. There was a death like feeling about the end; nothing left to say or argue about, too tired to fight anymore, and too weary to care. Someone, or both, needed to crawl into their own corner or shell and figure out what was going on. Someone may have abruptly left.
As a result, you have gone through a very low time and are probably not very socially active right now. The Hermit coming in as the Present Card carries several meanings for you. He highlights loneliness and a feeling of having spent enough time in despair and out of circulation. He suggests a time of great reflection and introspection. There comes a time after deep loss when we reach a point of transition. Much self-knowledge has been gained from our journey through pain and distress. We can see life in a new perspective and seek change, and to be truer to our inner-self. The Hermit can suggest counselling or the need for professional help in this area. It is The Hermit who holds the mirror up close so that you can see your true reflection. However, who or what you see looking back at you may come as shock, for The Hermit’s mirror holds special magic. What reflects back at you is your inner-self, also all the facades you have worn, and all the personalities you have projected on to others. It is a time for awakening and taking full responsibility for where you are in life, both for good and bad. The Hermit will help you through the this voyage of self-discovery and growth. The Four of Swords very often has to spend time with The Hermit before stability returns and a new focus emerges. I feel a sense that you are ready to return to normal life once more and are eager to come in out of the cold. You might be eager for a reconciliation thinking that all the fuss has died down, and that you are more stable in your self. Your ex-partner may not be in the same frame of mind as you so you must bear this in mind. It does not mean that they do not seek a reconciliation at some stage, but it may be too soon for them. Read the rest of this entry
The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2014 annual report for this blog.
Here’s an excerpt:
The Louvre Museum has 8.5 million visitors per year. This blog was viewed about 1,800,000 times in 2014. If it were an exhibit at the Louvre Museum, it would take about 77 days for that many people to see it.
A Big Welcome to 2015
Happy New Year, Bliain Nua Faoi Mhaise Duit, to all my Tarot Friends around the World,
Bonne année et bonne santé, Feliz año nuevo, Felice Anno Nuovo, Ein glückliches neues Jahr, Akemashite Omedetou Gozaimasu, Sehe Bokmanee Bateuseyo, Godt NytÅr, Gelukkig nieuwjaar, Boldog uj evet, Szczesliwego Nowego Roku, Gott Nytt År, Chuc mung nam moi, Sawatdee Pi Mai, Manigong Bagong Taon, Akemashite Omedetou Gozaimasu, Selamat Tahun Baru, Eutychismenos o kainourgios chronos, Bonan Novjaron, Stastny Novy Rok, (I am sorry if I did not include your language)
I would like to extend my thanks to all of you who have visited, followed, commented and contributed to Truly Teach Me Tarot throughout 2014. Your ongoing support and engagement is very much appreciated and has been a major incentive in helping the site develop and grow.
2015 will be a busy year with goals set to complete further sections of the Course and the re-working of the remaining Court Cards, The Queens and Kings, and The Major Arcana from The Hierophant onwards. Those long talked about Video Tutorials will eventually be making an appearance and Truly Teach Me Tarot will make the transition from WordPress.com to WordPress.org. College will continue until June, with assignments and exams to complete. It will all be a bit of a juggling act and I can visualise The Two of Pentacles featuring heavily in my life in the coming months. I certainly will need Strength and The Chariot backing me up with The Emperor keeping me organised and disciplined. Somehow or other, I will have to find time for The Empress so maybe Temperance can help me out there by ensuring a sense of balance is maintained.
On a Global level, there have been many ups and downs over the last 12 months. The world and humanity have been sent some very difficult challenges to overcome. None of us can be immune to the horrific suffering so many experienced in 2014 and continue to do so. Political struggles, war, acts of horrendous violence, repression, oppression, hatred, starvation, poverty, disease, tragedies and disasters. We have witnessed more than enough, and at times have felt emotionally overwhelmed by it all. Some of us have experienced psychological damage as we deal with the depression that follows such trauma.
As we prepare to move into 2015 we must all pause and ask questions of ourselves. Do we want a repeat of, or an even worse version of 2014? Are we just crossing our fingers, keeping our heads down and hoping for the best, or praying that The Tower won’t stop at our door as it thunders along? The world yet again has reached the brink of insanity and we cannot simply bury our heads in the sand and insist that it has nothing to do with us. History has brought us terrible lessons on many, many occasions, but have we learned from any of them? It appears we fall into the same traps over and over again, but the terrible thing is we now walk into them voluntarily and with our eyes wide open.
We all know that violent war solves nothing except breeds hatred and revenge, yet as humans we tend to seek it out over and over again as a way of settling a situation. I read a novel recently called The Death Instinct by Jed Rubenfeld. Freud features as a character in this book along with his theory called The Death Instinct which the book is named after (a very good book by the way). Freud believed that as humans we naturally crave life but only on an equal level with craving death. Without going into the in-depth analysis provided in the book (check it out on Wikipedia here) he had the belief that humanity will never be happy unless we are killing ourelves or each other, for we seek death just as much as we seek life. Therefore, there will never be a war to end all wars for we are incapable of sustaining prolonged peace. I do hope that Freud is proved wrong in this instance for it speaks of a bleak future where the art of war is becoming bloodier, more sinister and capable of horrific consequences.
As we move into a more technically advanced age, war has become very sophisticated. It has far-reaching tentacles and can no longer be referred to as something that is happening ‘over there’ or ‘somewhere else’. War, regardless of where it is being fought affects us all. We may not understand the issues being battled over, or care less what it is all about, we may believe we have enough of our own problems to have to worry about others. For those who are informed they may still feel baffled about the belief systems involved and wonder why they can not all get together and sort it out. However many who perpetrate war may want you to know about their war whether you are interested or not. They may want to make a statement, gain attention, notoriety, infamy, or lay blame any where they can, even if it is far removed from their own battlefield.
We no longer go to war. Instead war is taken to us; into our homes, onto our streets, into our shopping malls, restaurants and schools where the only battle fields we are used to involve sport and enjoyment. We shudder in disbelief and ask why? How could humans do this to each other? How could you hurt a little child? Why do they want to commit such massacres? They do it because they can and for some awful reason, they both enjoy it and justify it. And of course there is also the political involvement from all over the world, the conspiracy theories and rumours of power, oil, and wealth which funds and drives these wars, plunging the world into misery and devastation. It is said that wars never happen by accident. On the contrary, they are well planned and orchestrated. And the planners? The most powerful people in the world, and more than likely never heard of by us mere mortals. We are not talking about presidents of countries here but those on a much higher level, those who pull all the strings, the strategists, yet never get exposed to any danger themselves. These are the theories.
And the results of war? Death, loss, devastation, displacement, trauma, fear, hatred, revenge, disease, poverty, starvation, recession. If the money that was wasted on war, billions and billions worldwide, was injected into more important and relevant areas to improve our human existence, there would be no poverty or starvation. There would be access to proper health care and education for all. There would be less crime because there would be less deprivation. There would be no homelessness, we wouldn’t have to rely on charity for funding as there would be sufficient money in the state coffers to cover all. The money that had previously being wasted on war would go a long way in helping to make a better life for us all.
But we cannot fall to our knees and decide that it is all over, that we have lost or failed. It is time for all of us to pick ourselves up and focus on the positive by becoming more optimistic about the future. We all need to start making a difference. With that thought in mind I have asked the Universe to send the World, and those who reside upon it, a Special Message for 2015. How do we move forward? How can we find peace? Where is The Love and Compassion? How do we put right all the wrongs? How do we heal? What can I do? Because there are 12 months in the year, I have pulled 12 Cards, but not to represent any particular month.
Let us take a look at these 12 Cards now and take a brief message from each.
Justice – We are not exactly talking about the normal Legal System here where courts and judges decide who is guilty and who is innocent, and were sentences or punishments are issued. Justice represents the Spiritual Court of Law where only the truth is expected of us. There are no lawyers or prosecutors, and the only judge present sits within each one of us. We are both our own Judge and Jury and therefore lying or trying to escape the consequences of our actions is futile for we know the truth of us regardless of how we try to gloss it up. In the human Legal System we can try to fool others but we will always know the truth of what we did, felt or said. There is no escape in Justice who holds the double-edged Sword in one hand and a Balanced Scale in the other. Justice reminds us that there are always two sides to each story and therefore we must own up to our own responsibility instead of trying to blame others. The Scales of Justice demand balance. Any excess in one scale will off-balance the other. It is a natural law. Taking the action of placing a weight in one side of the scales will automatically result in a consequence in the other. Read the rest of this entry
Greetings to all my Tarot Friends around the World,
Thank you to those who contributed their interpretations for The Six of Cups Reversed and The Tower. I have now posted these contributions. They can be viewed in the Comments Section by scrolling down to the end of the Post found at this Link. Your Comments should have been posted sooner but I have been experiencing awful internet problems throughout the last week. Better late than never they say.
Just to let you all know that I am busy re-working The Knight of Pentacles and hope to have him ready for viewing in the next couple of weeks. There will also be a New Year Reading for you to try out.
My personal news is that I have gone back to college. I am now in Dublin four days a week so have a tight schedule and heavy workload. However, my college course is in Digital Technology, and all going well, it will help me develop my new site in a much more efficient manner going forward into 2015. Exhausting, but all in a good cause!
Now back to the Reading mentioned in my Post Title. I found this in my Spam Folder, sent from a Site Visitor who asked for some insight into the Cards she had drawn; The Devil, The Tower, The High Priestess, The World, The Hierophant, The Wheel of Fortune and Strength....Wow! I don’t think this is Spam so I have decided to take a look at it. I will refrain from passing on the identity of this visitor as she may have wanted to deal with this privately.
There is no Question to go on. Neither is there any further information e.g. Was all the Deck used or just the Major Arcana? Had any of the Cards being Reversed before drawing these seven? Which Spread did she use, or did she just draw a specific number? Are the Cards for her, or another?
Because there are Seven Cards, I am going to take the liberty of laying them out in The Horse Shoe Spread. I am also going to assume she used only the Major Arcana as it would be unusual to get all Seven Cards as Majors. Judging by the Cards she drew, I will presume she has quite strong reasons for seeking insight from the Tarot. This was not a casual approach.
Like the last time, I will give my impressions and theories but would also appreciate some contributions from anyone who would like to offer theirs. Remember there are so many ways to interpret each Card, and therefore Spread, we may all get varying interpretations. However, when they are blended together this Reading could be quite dynamic. So whoever is willing, let us now have a go.
1 – The Past 7 – The Outcome
2 – The Present 6 – Hopes and Fears
3 – The Near Future 5 – Surrounding Energies
As I gaze upon these Cards I sense a battle or fierce struggle to overcome some pretty strong issues or challenges. I believe that whoever these Cards represent is desperate to make a bid for freedom or seeks to extricate themselves from a situation or person that has been exerting considerable control in their life. Judging by The Devil and Tower Card, the influence of this control has had a negative impact. Read the rest of this entry
Happy Holidays to all my Tarot Friends around the World,
I trust you are all enjoying the festive season and not overindulging too much. Here in Ireland, the stores and streets have been their usual crazy self with people dashing and rushing from shop to shop, weighed down with bags and bags of presents and special treats. The Irish go mad at this time of the year and all caution is thrown to the wind. Children have been wild with excitement for the last couple of weeks but I have also seen the tears and tantrums when it all became too much. Stress creeps in regardless of how happy and joyful we all appear to be, so I do hope that most of you are getting to sit down today, for a couple of hours at least. It would be a shame to miss the whole thing because you were too busy or too shattered.
This time of year is very difficult for many people for it brings painful memories of loved ones gone and times past. I lost my 11-year-old son at this time of year in 2007 and I have found the last few weeks, and especially yesterday, quite awful to get through. I became quite lost in sorrow and grief, and worried how I would cope. Today, is not as bad as I expected so hopefully I am beginning to come out of my mournful self. I think it was seeing all the shoppers and listening in on their excited chatter about what they were buying and when the tree was going up. I watched the wonder and awe on the faces of the little children as they headed in to visit Santa in shopping centers as my heart twisted and lurched with my loss. Where was my son? So many memories and all those special times I took for granted. I saw my son in their faces, crazy with excitement, wanting everything he laid eyes on. I thought of his long lists for poor Santa which he normally started compiling from sometime in early October. My frenzied rush to shops to make sure a certain toy or game hadn’t run out. The hiding of gifts in attics and in neighbours’ homes. All gone now. Of course he would be nearly 19 years old, long past Santa stage, and probably looking for Xbox games, new phone or the latest tablet, clothes, or maybe just money. He might have a girlfriend, or two, college friends and possibly a car. Yes, all gone now and we will never know. All that is left are memories and ghosts of Christmas past.
I just thought I would share a little of the Irish Holiday Season with you in the following videos so you can see for yourself how important family are at this time of the year.
This one is not from The Holiday period but reflects the type of entertainment we Irish lay on for home comers and visitors at our National Airport in Dublin.
And of course Christmas would not be Christmas without our Shane McGowan and The Pogues with their Christmas song ‘Fariytale of New York’.
Happy Holidays to one and All from Ireland,
Nollaig Shona, (Happy Christmas in Irish)
Vivien (Your Tarot Teacher)
The Six of Cups Reversed
and The Tower
Greetings to all my Tarot Friends around The World,
I had a Request today from a site visitor who asked the following:-
Does anyone have any clue what the meaning is with the 6 of cups reversed with the tower card upright?
Well why don’t we all have a go at this one? I will post the cards and share my thoughts on them. We don’t have a question with the cards or know if there were any more cards available. I am going to go for straightforward intuitive interpretations based on my understanding of these two cards and what they might mean when drawn together.
Please add to my interpretation and see what we can come up with for this person.
Please Note- The Interpretations below should not be taken as an accurate prediction of what is going on. The person who posted the question did not specify who the Cards were for or whether the two Cards were randomly chosen to determine how to make connections when Reading. Tarot Cards should never be solely relied on to give answers to all life matters. The Two Cards could mean a lot, but then again, they may mean nothing at all and are just two Tarot Cards.
The following interpretations are a sample of what The Six of Cups Reversed and The Tower might mean in a Reading. They are examples only, and not meant as a definitive interpretation for the Querant. It would be better if we had a focus question to zoom in on for more accuracy. Maybe we will be given more information. I am basing my examples on the type of Reader I am. Yours may be very different. I could provide several more interpretations than those below but I am interested to see what others might have to say about these two Cards.
To me, these two Cards are potentially loaded when placed together and can take on several meanings. They can be both positive or negative. I get the feeling that the person who posted this comment possibly knows what their connection is, unless it is so far in the past they are not associating it with their current issues
To kick start I will offer quite a simplistic interpretation. The Six of Cups Reversed and The Tower may be referring to explosive rows and arguments which are probably family related. The battles could be intense and prolonged with much screaming and shouting. Words are meant to hurt and sting. There is no holding back. A lot of pent up aggression is being released.
The Six of Cups Reversed may suggests an issue which is connected to the family, the family home, childhood, the past or memories. The Upright Six is all about stability, harmony and the emotional attachments of home, especially the childhood home. In the Upright, everyone is cared for, loved and protected. There is a feeling of safety and security in the Upright, and for those who were blessed with happy childhoods, the sentiment that is attached to the family homestead and family members. It is where we want to run to when we are ill, unhappy or hurt. It is here we are understood, will recover and nothing is expected of us. We are loved and cherished for who we are and no on puts demands on us. However, as we get older, we normally can only handle this in small doses for it tends to be a closeted and cosseted world. Nice for a while but can become boring or tedious.
With the Six appearing Reversed, I get the feeling that something has happened. There is a lack of security and stability. This may be what is desired, as in someone wants to shake up their world, or it is possibly an external force. The Tower standing beside The Reversed Six marks this as quite a serious issue. It certainly has been building for some time whether those involved are aware of this or not. The Tower brings a shocking revelation or event, that has, or will turn everything one has known up till now on its head. There may be a feeling of not being able to trust the past anymore or memories, or even being forced out of the past one desperately clings on to. Something from the past may have come back to haunt you and there is no keeping it locked away anymore. There could be a family secret, something that was covered up long, long ago, but is now being forced out into the open. The effect The Tower has on the poor Six of Cups could be quite profound. There is bound to be intense upset and emotional trauma. One may not know where to turn as one’s internal compass begins to go haywire. One’s very foundations could be shook to the core. You could lose a sense of who you are, where you came from or where you fit in anymore.
Life is certainly going to change and may never be the same again. This may be a good or bad thing depending on the circumstances and those involved. There is a good chance that you are going to learn something about your past that will make you question everything. Indeed you may know already. It may be you who is going to reveal all. Whatever it is can no longer be contained and news could travel rapidly. You may have to prepare for an emotional storm and will likely feel that it is more than you can bear.
Another way of looking at these two Cards is that the Six of Cups Reversed represents someone who is going to do something that is going to fly in the face of tradition and family expectations or loyalties. There is a sense of bringing trouble down upon the family and causing drama and chaos as a result of actions, decisions or behaviour. Could this person be throwing caution to the wind, choosing a path or course of action that could very well get them thrown out of home or ostracised. They may be carrying a secret that will cause an explosion when it is revealed.
The Tower is destructive but it is also releasing. The Six of Cups Reversed can suggest a sense of claustrophobia and restriction. In the Reversed Six, these feelings begin to get overwhelming. Any methods of controlling or ignoring them, methods that may have worked in the past, can no longer conceal them. An internal head of steam could be building. There may be a feeling of not being able to breathe, that you are bursting at the seams. There could be a growing craving for freedom or escape from what has turned into a cell like existence. This could be related to any area of life. It could be a relationship that has become restricting or controlling, a job that you feel trapped in, duties and obligations that severely restrict you. There is a sense of growing boredom and that you will explode if you do not escape. Any actions that you take as a result of this will have repercussions that are bound to scare you. You must decide whether you are prepared to suffer such consequences. Is this bid for freedom worth it? Do you really want it? Is it your idea or is someone putting pressure on you?
There is likely to be no going back should you decide to act on your feelings or plans, but this may not be a bad thing as The Six of Cups Reversed tells me that this is not a situation that has come about overnight. You have been putting up and making do for a long time, but now it has become unbearable and you feel that it is time to think of what is good for you and not what is good for all around you. People may feel angry with you and manifest a sense of disbelief that you could be so cruel as to hurt them in such a way, especially after all they did for you. Emotional Blackmail may be used as a weapon against you, but as much as you might feel terribly responsible for bringing upset to everyone’s door step, you must do what is right for you. If you want to clear the slate, tear everything down around you so that you can discover who you are and what it is you want to do, then everyone will have to accept it. They will probably make your life miserable and attempt to turn others against you so that you are not welcome anywhere, but in time it will settle down. Big sweeping changes are certainly coming, be they of your own making or of others. Many people hate radical change and will fight hard against it. The Tower can be hard and cruel but is often essential if we don’t take the necessary actions ourselves.
Another aspect that crossed my mind is the scenario of ‘The empty nest syndrome’. The Six of Cups loves keeping everything as it is, harmonious, happy, predictable and safe. Any changes to the setup are viewed as threats and either deliberately ignored or manipulated so that they conform. Mothers or fathers who use emotional blackmail to keep their children at home are quite common. They actively work to stop them from growing up, continuing to treat them like babies and throw little wobblies when their offspring mention going out or going away. There eventually comes a time when they can no longer hold on, and one by one their children decide to fly the nest in search of a life of their own. The happy, harmonious Six of Cups then Reverses. They feel they have been dumped and are unappreciated. They make caustic and underhand remarks and become critical of any partners their children may bring home when visiting. Home becomes a place their adult children begin to actively avoid as it is filled with stress and uncomfortable scenes. The cossetting mother or father does not realise that they are the cause of driving their children away, even though they will blame everyone else. The root of the problem lies at home and nowhere else.
Staying on this theme, these two Cards, can highlight the terrible trauma that accompanies the death of a close family member. Mother, father, sister, brother, someone you have grown up with, a huge part of your life and shared memories. This type of loss is covered in The Tower as it depicts that horrendous experience of loss and suffering. The wrenching apart of all that you know. It can be hard to accept that life has changed and that a loved one is gone. It can be shattering. Maybe a house has to be cleared and the emotional upheaval could be distressing as your are surrounded by memories which once brought joy but now only sorrow. The very ground you now stand on is strange and alien. You may feel that this loss will destroy you. That you can’t live without them but The Tower can be endured and survived if you face up to it. These two Cards could also tell of receiving bad news about a health issue relating to family or a genetic condition that has been exposed through tests and screening.
Deep disturbing issues you are facing at present could have their roots in the past, possibly from childhood. It would be wise to do some soul-searching to see if you can make any connections. You may also be finally emerging from the pains of the past, coming out of a period of intense therapy where you had to peel the layers back to the painful bones so that you could put yourself back together again. The whole experience may have exhausted you. You might need some TLC but feel that you have no one to lean on. You may not have much family around you, are estranged from those you have or feel they would not understand. You may also not want to burden them with your troubles. You might be mourning the loss of someone close who you used to turn to during times of trouble. You possibly feel very alone and vulnerable.
These two Cards also depict a family being split up through separation or divorce. It also highlights children being taken into social care or having to seek refuge or sanctuary away from a dysfunctional home. Being homeless could also be a possibility.
So there you are. Now it is your turn. My interpretations are rather dramatic but The Tower in my experience is very powerful on either a negative or positive level depending on how you perceive the situation it accompanies.
Copyright © Vivien Ni Dhuinn
I am back again, twice in the one day. Very unusual. Why I am back is because I wanted to draw your attention to a couple of comments that were sent to me yesterday, in relation to the Three Cards I had drawn after asking about The Chiropractor being able to help me.
This comment came from Sue, who describes herself as a beginner, but she is more advanced than she gives herself credit for. She saw extra meanings in the Cards which went further than the aspect I approached it with yesterday. Her intuitive assumptions are correct, and believe it or not, I was going to post about the very nature of this Reading myself if I was to turn the Question from The Chiropractor back to myself.
These cards do look promising, and as a beginner i understood how you read them, but also i wondered about the Temperance card, could she be asking you to try and get through your tasks with moderation, the Queen of Wands to me likes to push on and be busy, perhaps you’re trying to do too much so to me Temperance is saying “do what you need to do, but in moderation” I hope your man does his stuff and you feel better soon x
Sue’s interpretation demonstrates marvellously how any Card in a Spread can be read on several levels. It can carry multiple applicable meanings, and when Sue looked at the Cards, she was aware of this. I asked about The Chiropractor, and I chose in this instance to relate 99% of the Reading to The Chiropractor. Should I have had more time, I would have pointed out the fact that not only were they giving me information about The Chiropractor, they also had important messages for me. Read the rest of this entry
Thanks for all the supportive comments yesterday. They were much appreciated. I felt I had you all in the Chiropractor’s room with me.
The Need to Seek Professional Help. Can’t do This on My Own
Well I survived my visit to The Chiropractor and live to fight another day. I promised I would let you all know how I got on so am now here to fill you in.
I was quite anxious about my impulsive move in selecting a Chiropractor. I have always been given mixed and conflicting advice about the benefits and success rates from this type of therapy. In fact there have been those in the past who lectured me strongly about the dangers of going to either a Chiropractor or Osteopath. ‘You can come out worse than when you in’ or ‘I have a friend whose back was destroyed by a Chiropractor’ and ‘I wouldn’t let a Chiropractor near me’. I have heard all the scary stories, but I have also heard of the successes too. When you are desperate and have reached a stage where you just couldn’t care less anymore, you are prepared to take crazy risks. I woke yesterday morning in a do or die mood and threatened to throw myself out the window if this mess of my neck didn’t go away. When my partner Googled Chiropractors in our region, he came up with the name of one that I knew in the local village/town of Clane, County Kildare. Actually I had been to this Chiropractor Clinic once before back in 2012, but never actually had a treatment. It had been a consultation regarding, yes, my neck, back in October 2012. Richard, the Chiropractor had taken some digital images of my spine, and because he saw a couple of ‘things’ in my cervical spine (neck), he advised I have an MRI of that area before starting treatment.
I had the MRI a couple of weeks later and because the results went back to my GP, he set me forth onto the path of the wearying and exhausting hospital system. I went the traditional medical route instead of returning to the Chiropractor. Somehow or other, I forgot about Richard and got caught up in hospital appointments that took months to come around. While I waited to be seen by the experts, my condition deteriorated and I resorted to finding help elsewhere. I don’t exactly know why I didn’t go straight back to Richard, The Chiropractor. Instead, my niece suggested a Osteopath who had helped her in the past and I eagerly took his number. I managed to secure an appointment, but his rooms were in Dublin City and I could only get in there once a week. He was a very busy man and appointments were like gold dust. When I managed to secure one with him, I arrived in Baggot St, Dublin, in a bit of a wobble. By that stage my balance had been gone for some time and my left cheek and eye-socket felt as if they were fractured. My lower jaw was moving in an exaggerated way to the left when I talked, and my speech was slurred. I kept biting my tongue and the inside of my mouth. There didn’t seem to be enough room in my jaw for my teeth and they ached and throbbed. My tongue also seemed to big for my mouth and I was at odds as to where to put it. My neck arms and shoulders were a complete mess.
Feeling Trapped and Tied Up in Pain
I really didn’t know what to expect from the session, but Paul, the Osteopath, after patiently listening to my long and weird history of symptoms, explained the nature of his work and how he hoped to help me. Then he produced his smart phone and asked me to stick my tongue out. He took a lovely photo of my tongue and then viewed it on his computer screen. He asked me if I had suffered a trauma or grief in recent years as he pointed out a deep line on the image of my tongue. I told him about the loss of my son from cancer in 2007 and he nodded wisely. He explained that it had left its imprint on me. The tongue, he said, was like a map of the body and easily showed up the areas where dis-ease reigned. He suggested that there was a lot of unexpressed grief and emotional repression that could very well be the root cause of my misaligned body. After the consultation he put me up on the plinth and proceeded to feel around the back of my neck, uttering ‘ah’ whenever he found inconsistencies. He checked out my jaw, shoulders, back, arms and legs. Overall he found a lot of things out-of-place. He then began the session in earnest, making adjustments in my neck and doing some painful things with my jaw. He reset my hips and rolled my arms in funny ways. Then he set me up with some acupuncture needles and left me to listen to classical music. I remember lying on the plinth with tears rolling down my face, as emotions rose to the surface. I couldn’t help myself. It was very relaxing and I could have stayed in that zone, perfectly happy and at peace for the rest of my life. Unfortunately, he had another client due in so I had to return to my world of chaos and leave the building. I was to come back for several more sessions and already I couldn’t wait for the next. Read the rest of this entry