Love and Romance Associations for Cup Cards is close to finish and will be posted by early next week. In the meantime I have a request from a student for help with the following reading. I have already given my opinion but I have asked her permission to throw it out to the audience for further contribution and input. You will see the dilemma she finds herself in with both the Reversed King of Wands and The Reversed Emperor, a tricky one for sure. I suggested she should pull extra cards to flush out their meaning but for the moment we will stick with what we have. For privacy reasons, I will keep the identity of the Querant hidden. This reading is open to anyone who wishes to contribute. We all read differently so it will be interesting to see what comes up. The Querant has supplied her own interpretation. She is new to tarot and I think has done very well.
The Reading – Looking for Love Spread
(Impossible to line up Card 3 and 4 which should be centered in the reading)
Card 2 Card 6
Card 3 Card 4
Card 1 Card 5
Card 1 – What are the underlying causes that have prevented or blocked you from meeting your perfect partner?
KING OF WANDS REVERSED – I recently came out of a marriage of 8 years (no children), it was a shock but was the right decision for us both. Soon thereafter I met a guy who was completely emotionally unavailable due to family trauma, he relentlessly pursued me and we had the most incredible 6 weeks together before he started pulling back and distancing, I ‘think’ (I don’t know whether to believe what he told me, but I felt it and I’m sure he did too as he said he did) we were both falling for each other but he ‘didn’t want an emotional connection’ and started treating me badly so I left. Then I went back hoping things would be different but they were worse. I believe the king of wands represents him, he’s cocky, arrogant, a player, offers no commitment, has narcissistic tendencies, self-centred, self-absorbed. I keep making excuses for him and can’t seem to let him or the idea of him go. I read that this card represented a date range that covers his birthday December 16th…
Card 2 – What can you do to make the necessary changes or overcome the issues in revealed in card 1?
3 OF SWORDS REVERSED – This experience has been SO SO SO painful. Worse than my marriage breakdown in many respects. I have thought about it/him every day. I have driven myself insane and I think the three of swords represents that pain and the need to grieve the loss and rejection/abandonment of both my marriage and this relationship. I need to move past this to move into the light. I do feel that things are improving and I am moving closer to happiness. I’m starting to feel great with every passing day!
Card 3 – What is the best step to take right now in order to find your perfect partner?
THE MAGICIAN – To keep exploring myself, self-love, self growth, enjoying my own company, growing into myself. I keep getting the high priestess coming up over and over in other readings. Is there any other actions linked to the magician?
Card 4 – Who would be the most suitable partner for me?
EMPEROR REVERSED – I think the emperor reversed represents a man who is able to be in control. What attracted me to the king of wands reversed was his alternative masculinity, I have never met anyone like him, he made me look at my life completely different and realise that everything I thought I wanted was false and unimportant. Nothing about him was on my ‘list’ but I was attracted to his spirited nature and this soul. Controlled, wild, different. Someone that can shake my world upside down and let me lose control. That is what I have been saying to my friends recently- what I am looking for is something completely different to what I’ve ever experienced. It’s the only way I can put a positive spin on this card…
Card 5 – Where am I most likely to meet my perfect partner?
10 OF PENTACLES REVERSED– this i’m confused about. I’m wondering if in its traditional sense, based on what I’ve read online, represents financial ruin? perhaps via losing my job (which I am nervous about, but have no reason to), via my divorce- in case my husband decides to go back on his word and try to take half our flat, or more positively does it mean I should get out there and let the magician in me dazzle and shine? get back on the dating game? I have struggled to motivate myself, not wanting to, or being able to move on from the king of wands reversed.
Card 6 – When am I most likely to meet my perfect partner?
3 OF CUPS – i’m guessing this could be at a party/festival/wedding.
Querant – Ok so it would be great to know if anyone has any alternative interpretations of these cards? The lovers is confusing me. The bias in me is hoping it represents the king of wands reversed, my ego hopes and desperately wants him to work on himself and his process and come back to me and that the lovers represents us getting back together. Or does the lovers simply suggest I will meet my perfect man in time? Is it possible that the king of wands reversed can also be the emperor reversed too? Is there something that I’m missing?
How to Interpret ‘Pentacle Cards’ in a Relationship Reading
Hi to All My Tarot Friends and Followers,
Yes, this post is indeed long over due and I apologise for the delay in getting it out to you. Since my last post I have succumbed to a vicious flare up of Fibromyalgia which has been very debilitating this time round. For those of you who suffer from, or know about this condition, you will only be too aware of how rotten it can be. I have not been been able to attend to my regular work schedule and have only managed a couple of hours a day at the computer. Some days, none at all. I am hoping that a return to normal activity is on its way soon, but from previous experience, flare-ups vary in intensity and duration. My cards do show The Star in my surrounding energy, so fingers crossed.
I hope you enjoy reading about the Pentacles – Love and Romance Associations. I think I may have gotten carried away as I seem to have done more on this Suit than I did for both Wands and Swords. There is so much to say about these lovely Pentacles. Indeed, I could have written a lot more!
Vivien (your Tarot Teacher)
Pentacles- Quite Interesting in Relationship Readings
Pentacles are generally welcomed in Relationship Readings once they are Upright. Cups are all very well and good for love and romance, but they can have their heads stuck in the clouds and get lost in unrealistic dreams as their emotions run away with them. Yes, Cups do highlight matters of the heart, but only on the basis of fluctuating emotions. The love experienced by Cups can turn sour overnight as they are easily influenced by their shifting environment. They view love and romance in an idealistic way and most certainly they are to be encouraged in this manner for we should all be lost without love. However, holding on to that love once they have found it can prove a stressful endeavor. Some Cups are forever chasing the dream lover or relationship. Disappointment or disillusionment can follow. Pentacles help them to be more realistic and practical about their needs….. Click here or Below to Read More
Page Link ⇒ Pentacles – Love and Romance Associations
How to Interpret ‘Cup Cards’ in a Relationship Reading – To Follow
Hi to All My Tarot Friends Around The World,
Further to the possible Site Hacking Post I published on September 20th, I have spent the last couple of days following the advice of WordPress Staff and Forum Members in taking certain steps to flush out any unwanted activity on my site. This involved me having to totally overhaul my site and email programs. Thankfully nothing was found, and both WordPress and I feel confident that all is well. However, I would like to thank the site follower who took the time to bring the potential site hack to my attention. I did a lot of research after this and discovered that so many site owners haven’t a clue their site is being hacked as the hacker configures the virus to identify the administrator in order to keep them out of the picture. Unless someone contacts the administrator to tell them of issues on their site, the hacker can continue without any challenges. Sites can lose traffic along with their reputation and credibility if hacking becomes widespread.
TAKING SWIFT ACTION TO DEFEND AND PROTECT
I am the sole site creator, developer, content author/creator, administrator, social media manager and a list of other things for teachmetarot.wordpress.com. I am also developing a new site for Truly Teach Me Tarot at present while working on separate web builds for friends and acquaintances. I have a tonne of correspondence to reply to everyday and work hard to keep on top of it. The idea that my site could possibly be hacked without me knowing about it, never entered my head at all. I just don’t have the time to check up on such things. With the self-hosted sites I have built for others, there are security plugins in place to inform me immediately of the slightest breach in security. I get emailed if someone attempts an unauthorised login for example.
WordPress.com employ a huge number of people whose job it is to keep our sites safe and secure. It is highly unlikely that the breach in security will come from their end. We can all sleep more soundly as a result of this. The vulnerable areas where a hacker can find a backdoor into your site is through your browser or browser add-ons/extensions being infected with malware or adware. This issue may also be with the site user’s browser and not the site itself. Email accounts are also vulnerable and should be protected with super-strong passwords.
WORDPRESS SECURITY WARRIORS
So, I have learned a lot in the past two days and feel quite empowered by my new knowledge. However, the scheduled post containing the next section relating to The Pentacles -Love and Romance Associations will now be delayed by a couple of days. I apologise for this delay but it was vitally important for me to attend to the defense of my site. I do hope you all understand.
GETTING BACK TO WORK
So back to business, but I will be on my guard from now on!
- Hi everyone,
One of my site followers contacted me today to inform me that several of my internal page links appear to be hijacked and are redirecting to external sites offering psychic services and similar. Please be advised that these are not authorised links and have been activated without my knowledge. I have informed WordPress and am awaiting a response. I apologise for any site disruption while this obvious hacking continues. I get a lot of traffic which I suppose makes me vulnerable to such attacks. Sites are illegally piggy backing off my traffic. Very frustrating. Please let me know if you have experienced this on my site.
How to Interpret ‘Sword Cards’ in a Relationship Reading
(Simple Snapshot Reference Guide – Numerology, Upright, Reversed, Yes/No)
Swords – A little More Complex to Interpret
United We Stand! – Meeting of Minds
1 – Real Potential. A balanced and clear understanding of your relationship needs. Breakthrough in finding a partner.
Ace of Swords – Understanding what it is you need in a relationship. A logical approach to relationships. Forming new attitudes about relationships. A meeting of the minds. Click Here or Below to Read More
Associated Post – How to Interpret a Relationship Tarot Reading with no Cup Cards!
There is a certain area of Tarot Reading that causes considerable confusion and frustration to those who are in the early stages of their apprenticeship or studies. The area I refer to is how one goes about interpreting a Relationship Spread when there is an obvious lack of Cup Cards to work with. Many students struggle when attempting to link non-Cup Cards to the emotional needs or desires of their client. They can view each Suit in a one-dimensional manner. This results in seeing love and romance only when Cup Cards are present. A good old Wand, Sword or Pentacle doesn’t have the same impact at all.
I spent several years teaching Tarot, and at the end each class lesson, students would pair up to do mini exchange readings for each other. I would oversee these readings as I circulated around the class, stopping occasionally to observe the interactions. Time and again, I saw students fall into the same presumption trap that seems to be particular to the Cups’ Suit. Here are some examples:
Student A – Wants to ask about their career and in their near future position lies the Ace of Cups.
Student B– Face lights up and announces that they are going to meet someone on a romantic basis in the near future. Love is in the air. Student B hooks onto this card and bases the rest of the reading around the new romance that is just appearing on the horizon.
Student A – Is quite flattered but still would like to know more about their career.
I ask Student B if there is a possibility the Ace of Cups held others meanings that might be connected to career rather than love? The Point being that Cup Cards do not automatically mean ROMANCE or LOVE.
Student C – Wants to ask about relationships and whether there is a ‘special other’ waiting for them in the near future. The cards drawn reveal no Cups.
Student D – On seeing no Cup Cards suggests that the time is not right as they see no romance in the foreseeable future.
I ask Student D to ponder the cards in the Spread and consider the possibility that Student C is not the romantic type and is looking for a less traditional type of relationship. Could they be seeking an intellectual match, or someone who is daring and adventurous, or then again it might be financial security and stability that means more than romance. The Point being that no Cup Cards does not mean NO RELATIONSHIP or LOVE
I had a query recently from a site viewer who couldn’t work out why she had drawn so many Cup Cards when she had deliberately asked about her career. She asked if it meant that she should be concentrating on her love life at present instead of her career? Now, maybe the cards did mean that, but my response was to examine the personal emotional associations of the Cup Cards she drew, as opposed to automatically connecting them to romantic involvement with another. I reminded her that personal happiness comes before seeking it with another. I asked her to revisit these Cup Cards in relation to how she emotionally felt about her career choices. Were the cards suggesting a career associated with the Cups’ Suit? Where they questioning the long-term emotional fulfillment that would be derived from certain career options she was considering? Could she be choosing to turn down a career opportunity that would bring great happiness, but little wealth, in favor of one that promised the very opposite? There are endless possibilities and she would need to analyse the spread as a whole to find the answer.
So, the next time you do a Relationship Reading, and upon turning over the cards you find not even one Cup Card to run with, don’t panic. Look at the cards that are present and work from there. Love comes in many shapes and sizes. Our definition of love also changes throughout of our life. What we consider love as a teenager, is perceived as no more than naive infatuation as a young adult. When we are busy building our careers we may take another view of love and romance. It may not be as vitally important to us during that busy time. Love that involves committing to each other, or starting a family, takes on yet another slant. Then we have the type of Love that develops into a deep rich friendship. We also have a Love that demands the retention of personal freedom, the love of one’s own company. We have love that comes and goes, many loves in one lifetime, love that is delusional or elusive, and of course love that is timeless. As Tarot Readers or consultants it is not our job to attach a blanket understanding or meaning of love when doing Relationship Readings for ourselves or others.
What might sound preposterous to you may very well be extremely acceptable to another. A lack of Cup Cards could easily suggest that the person you are reading for is looking for something other than the typical romantic idyll. They may not feel ready for that type of love, so it is not our place to cast judgement.
I have taken some time to compile a list of possible meanings and associations (both Upright and Reversed) that can be used for the other Three Suits; Wands, Swords and Pentacles when they turn up in a Relationship Reading. I have already written extensively about the relationship aspects in the more detailed versions of each card which are available to view on this site. These however can be used for quick access.
I have also given snapshot Yes/No meanings that can be applied, but remember they are only snapshot, and not definitive. There is also a reference to the Number of the Card with its numerical associations.
I will be releasing these in installments over the next week, starting with The Wands Suit. Of course I will also include The Cups Suit at the end. For today, I bring you The Wands Suit. Just Click Here or on the link below.
And so we come to the final reading for Sharon. We have learned much about her at this stage. Although we do not know Sharon on a personal basis, we have established a very strong understanding of the life path she is on at present. We can see that the focus of her intention lies not in just one small area of life but is far-reaching and overlapping. The life situation she sought help with from the Tarot is not isolated from the rest of her life. Indeed her life and present situation is full of many chapters, each one relevant and vital to the understanding of the overall story. Without investigating the individual chapters highlighted in the previous three readings, we might make impulsive uninformed judgments, or throw about conflicting advice. What we have seen so far are recurring messages from the Tarot that encourage Sharon to seek an independent path at present so that she may develop as an individual, thus allowing her potential, dreams and ambitions to blossom and flourish.
Remaining Objective When Reading – My Musings!
Sharon’s extremely positive feedback highlights the fact that she already knows, without ever having to look at any Tarot Cards, what it is she needs to do. However, it is always nice to get a second opinion. We must always remember that these are my interpretations. Another Reader with a different Reading style might come up with something completely different. You see Tarot Readers as quite similar to artists or novelists. Three artists are presented with a commission to paint a coastal scene. All are given the same details, but when the paintings are revealed each one is totally different from the next. The same with three novelists who set about the task of writing a story based in, let’s say, war-time Paris. When we read the three stories, they bear no resemblance to each other at all, even though the writers were all given the same outline to work with. It all comes down to how the individual interprets internal visuals and information they absorb or are fed. Ask three people who were present at an incident to describe what happened, and yet again you will arrive at conflicting interpretations of what each one saw, or perceived to be happening. Our interpretations are generally influenced by our personal experiences or attitudes to the situation in question.
As Tarot Readers we must strive to step aside from knee-jerk interpretations and remain objective as much as possible. I personally went through a disastrous abusive marriage that ended in misery. I suffered much at the aggressive hands of my ex-husband. He left me for a young girl who was only 14 years old at the time. My son was less than a year old, and it pretty much destroyed me for a long time. I do a lot of Readings for men. Indeed most of my clients are male. In this business one deals with a lot of very sad relationship issues. Some of my male clients come for help because they are in an unhappy marriage and want to leave. Some have met another and no longer love their partner or spouse. If I were to allow my personal experiences (thankfully I have moved on and let them go), to interfere with these readings I would accuse them all of being b*****ds! Instead I listen to their stories and help them reach the best decision for all by asking the Tarot for guidance on a positive way forward.
Likewise I have many female clients who arrive distressed after their partner or spouse has left or cheated on them. They are often full of hatred, hell-bent on revenge, and want everyone to rally to their war cry (I was there too myself at one stage). Unfortunately they have come to the wrong Reader for that. I tell it as I see it in as nice a way as possible, but in some situations the Tarot roars at you rather than whispering its sublime messages. Just in case you think I am being sexist in any way, and to keep the scales balanced, I also have female clients who no longer love their partner or spouse. They too are well capable of falling out of love, feeling disillusioned and wanting to leave. And of course there are male clients who feel destroyed or very angry about their partner or spouse. Regardless of gender, Unhappiness is unhappiness.
As Tarot Readers or Consultants, we must sit somewhere in between and remain objective, regardless of our personal feelings on the matter. Your personal experiences in life should make you a wiser and more understanding Tarot Reader. They should never make you a rigid, bitter or highly opinionated one. Work hard not to project negative personal experiences into your Readings. Tainted Readings do neither the Querant nor The Reader any favors.
Now Back to The Final Reading ……………..
The Final Reading
Now that Sharon has explored some very important areas of her current situation, she is ready to completely focus on how she might best go about establishing the independent life she fought so hard to secure. It is time for Sharon to set about achieving long-held goals and ambitions. She is eager to move forward and is not afraid to do it all on her own. This is her chance now and her final question reveals the incredible talent and ability she has kept suppressed for so long. This reading is very important for Sharon as her personal pride, happiness and fulfillment are at stake. Her wings had been clipped, but fate has given them back to her. How high and far will she fly?
Sharon – I would like my final reading to be about my independent path – about developing my career and financial security. but also following my life purpose. My career background is journalism/writing and counselling/guidance/healing and I feel like I want to combine the two in a business promoting personal growth in women – at the moment I’m thinking book, blog, workshops (the idea of group work and communicating through written word appeals more than one to one work.)
Hi To all my Tarot Friends around the World,
After getting off to an excellent start yesterday with Chart Your Progress Tarot Reading – Week 1, I now bring you the next Reading in this series, Week 2. In the first Reading, we set the background scene, found our central theme and got our bearings. We now have something very solid on which to build the next, and indeed, all subsequent Readings. We gained a real insight into Sharon’s situation, her personality and spirit. This has given us invaluable information and we can also see a wonderfully intricate story building around her.
There is indeed a vibrancy around this Empress woman who we cannot help but admire. However, we must strive to remain objective for the following three Readings. Life is never a bed of roses, and the journey we all face, rarely runs smooth, or as anticipated. We must be prepared to interpret any further scenarios that may arise regardless of how glorious her initial Reading is.
The Ace of Wands has certainly launched itself, but where will it go next? None the less, we have broken the ice and are prepared to expand on all the information gleaned from yesterday’s, Week 1 Reading. Chart Your Progress Readings need to link together and organically develop. The questions, or query’s sought for each Reading, may vary, but all must link, as everyone’s life is multi-faceted with so many inter-related scenarios developing and interacting all around the same situation. We cannot separate every aspect of our life so that it stands alone. Regardless of how hard we try to compartmentalise our various roles, they will invariably cross over or invade each other’s territory.
The Minor Arcana demonstrates the individual aspects of our personality in the Suits of Wands, Cups, Swords and Pentacles. Their story-lines are built around the archetypal personalities and archetypal situations associated with each Element. Even though they walk their own path, they cannot help but be affected by their fellow Suits’ influences. The Swords have quite a difficult path to tread but do not for one moment think that The Cups Suit are marching along happy, oblivious to their Sword neighbours’ plight. If the mind is upset or distressed, then it will have a very strong impact on the emotions too, Cups. It will also limit the strength and enthusiasm of the Wands. It might very well paralyse the Pentacles. I tell you all this so that you may better understand the dynamics that are at play in Chart Your Progress Readings. You must identify connections as you proceed from week to week.
In the first Reading we established Sharon’s status, her frame of mind and the exciting, if sometimes scary, journey she had embarked upon. We now want to move beyond that in all directions to examine what personal goals are invested in this adventure which has been set in motion with The Ace of Wands and The Wheel of Fortune. She has grabbed her Wand and jumped aboard the Wheel, so what is it she wants to achieve? What does she want to happen? Let us begin.
Chart Your Progress Reading – Week 2
Sharon – So here are the cards for my next reading. I was torn between asking more about my work and for guidance on my emotional life but as I am putting the work stuff on the back burner for a little longer, I decided to seek guidance on my emotional life and relationships. The cards are – the two of wands – the moon – the three of cups. Very much looking forward to my next reading, thank you so much! Read the rest of this entry
Hi to all my Tarot Friends around the World,
While I am busy working away on writing more content for you all to enjoy, I have been given the much appreciated permission to publish a series of Tarot Readings I did for one of my fabulous Facebook Followers. I had thrown the word out that I would offer a free 4 weekly, Chart Your Progress Tarot Reading for one of my Facebook Followers if they were agreeable to having their Readings posted on the Page for all to see. They also had to have an issue, challenge or project to base the Readings on. I certainly struck gold when Sharon got in touch with me. She ticked all the boxes and was very focused on the area of her life she wanted her Readings to concentrate on.
Chart Your Progress Readings work by regularly monitoring a defined situation, issue, challenge or project over a 4 week, or more, time period to determine how it is progressing, and to highlight areas that need attention. As the weeks go by, it is quite clear to see in the Cards just how well things are working out. If there are apparent negative, or unwelcome cards in the earlier Readings, their absence in later Readings can indicate successful management of the issue. If these Cards, or similar ones, repeatedly turn up, then it can highlight on-going blocks or set-backs to progress.
Anyone can do this type of Reading. It is best not to use too many cards each week, but if you are doing it maybe once a month, a larger Spread can be used. The Initial Reading – Week 1 sets the scene and outlines all the details surrounding the query. It will provide a launching pad from which to work. All subsequent Readings will refer back to this original Reading.
Many of my Clients opt for this type of Reading, coming back every 4 to 6 weeks for a check-up. It often helps people stay on-track and focused. My Clients really get the benefit out of Charting Their Progress, but are often anxious when they appear on my door for their follow-up Reading if they have been sloppy about working on the insight gained from the previous one in between. I can tell the moment their Cards are turned if they have made progress, or have unfortunately relapsed into their old behaviour or attitude. Sometimes they need the Cards to keep them inline!!
So, this is Reading Week 1. The background provided by Sharon is detailed below followed by the Cards she drew from her own deck. My interpretation follows. Sharon’s feedback follows that. I will post Reading – Week 2 on Friday.
Sharon – I’m at a big turning point in my life, having just ended my marriage and moved house, so everything is up for grabs right now, including kick-starting my career again. So it was quite difficult to think of a specific question. When I drew the cards, I focused on guidance for my future path – where do I go from here? What should I focus on as I move forward? The cards I pulled were: ace of wands, the empress and the wheel of fortune, in that order. Read the rest of this entry